Ever feel like you’re talking to an alien when you express your feelings to your partner/lover?
Um, yeah, I’ve been there.
I used to explain and explain and explain my feelings. Nothing would land until I was pushed to the point of frustrated tears.
If you relate to this, before you blame your partner for being an alien, ask yourself:
Why do you feel the need to explain?
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Here’s what I didn’t understand, and learned the hard way.
You never need to explain your feelings.
“I feel” is enough.
It’s not your job to come up with a solution.
It’s not your job to try to overcome feelings.
It’s not your job to feel guilty about how you feel.
It’s not your job to justify what you feel.
It’s not your job to fix your feelings.
It’s not your job to fix or take care of anyone else’s feelings.
Your only job is to feel your feelings. Know your feelings. Express your feelings.
And not blame anyone in the process.
© Krista Kujat